My mother 44F is a difficult person with narcissitic tendencies.
At the beginning of 2025 I decided i had enough of her control and went low contact. I think it is important to know that I live with her. After another development at home I decided to give her one very last chance and sat down with one of her siblings and mine. We talked very long. That talk was at the beginning of October and now we have 2026.
It was obvious that my lack of care for her well-being and contact were giving her a hard time. She expressed she wished us to be like before and after a 3h talk we started working on it. She showed big changes.
My mother who used to ignore my every word now started replying. Even if I said the most stupid things. When I had a headache she completely caught me off guard by massaging my head! I even marked that day in my calendar. Never had she done that before.
These past two to three days i noticed her easier lashing out and behaving more like before. No she doesnt ignore me (yet). As an example: i told her I would visit a friend in another city who currently moved into her new home and how she lived before with only her male family members. The next day she asked me why I even visited her a few months back if she lives with men (importang context: we are not white and so on and my mother dislikes to me going over when a person has a brother at home. I can go if he isnt present that day) Back then when i visited her i had told her that everyone except for her is on a trip. Today she came into my room and started yelling about how my room is a mess and I do nothing but lie around (i had a stomach ache).
I will keep watching her behavior the next few days but if my feelinc is correct and she is slipping back to her old behaviors how could i talk about it? I would definitely sit her down with my siblings but how to start? I am also nervous because i am actually quite fed up with this kind of behavior….
I also apologize in advance if my formatting is wrong or my use of words makes this hard to read