I need advice.
I’m in a long-distance relationship. He lives in the US, I’m in SEA. We’ve been together for two years. He has a child and an ongoing divorce, which I knew and accepted from the start.
What I’m struggling with is that his family doesn’t acknowledge me at all. They still treat his ex-wife as part of the family and include her in every family gathering. They don’t even know my name. I also can’t move anytime soon because of my career.
Whenever I try to talk about how this affects me or triggers my anxiety, he shuts it down and says they’re “done,” but I don’t see clear boundaries. Recently, he told me he’s planning a trip for days with his child and will bring his ex-wife because he can’t take the child without her.
It makes me feel like I’m invisible, and he gets defensive when I ask for reassurance.
Am I being unreasonable, or am I holding on to something that’s unlikely to change?