I've never been on reddit before so I'm sorry if theres any errors or mistakes in my format.
A little context, me and my bf have been dating for a little over a year now, and another thing that'll become relevant, I allow my bf to watch porn as I do too, we are a little bit of long distance but still meet up at least every month so in the moments we're away I don't mind JUST watching… on one spontaneous moment together we decided to watch it together, and I found out he watches his porn on twitter (my anxiety starts from here). And lastly this ring isn't an engagement ring but a promise ring as we are still young.
Okay so, I just came back from staying with my bf and his family for christmas, and on the first day of me staying with them we went out to this botanical garden and he proposed. The day was amazing up until we got back to the house and started partying. We were playing some games and my bf was on my phone playing a gacha game. I needed to use the restroom so I borrowed his phone to scroll through tik tok, but as soon as I got inside the restroom everything inside me was screaming to look at his twitter. And to my absolute horror, there are hundreds of messages (usually around 2-4am), calling other girls mommy and asking like "I wanna bend you over". One of the texts was just 3 days before he proposed. The thing is though he never engaged in conversations after 1-3 messages, only really saying the same thing to each girl and moving on.
I confronted him the same night in my car and he started saying how in his past relationship he has issues with being otp and having fun (which is another issue I've had in this relationship as he has no interest sexually in me it feels online but has it just fine in person) and so whenever he is horny he disassociates and just has his fun and moves on. He seemed genuinely apologetic and didn't try to spin it on me like I was overreacting. He immediately deleted everything and said he'd never do it again and worked all weekend to try and make sure I was taken care of.
I know reddit is gonna yell at me for not leaving him right then and there but I don't know what to do as he seemed so genuine and wanted to restart. But I don't know what to do cause I love him so much, but he very well knew my stance on even micro cheating as I just found out my dad was cheating and the last relashionship I was the other girl.
I just got home yesterday and my head is spinning, I don't know whether or not to give him that second chance and see if he does, but I'm scared hes just gonna become sneakier and better at it. Or if I should just cut my losses and leave him :/
Thank you for reading this, and if you need any more information I'm more than happy to respond, I just need advice and I have no one to talk about this to.
**TL;DR; : My bf (19M) of little over a year gave me a promise ring and then that same night I found out he was texting with twitter girls for even longer than our relashionship has been going on. And now I have no clue what to do :/**