Me and my wife are both non-smokers. We’ve been together a long time, great relationship, solid communication overall. She's my everything 🥰
Here’s the awkward part. I have a fantasy involving her smoking in a sexual context. It’s not about wanting her to become a smoker or change who she is, and I’m not trying to pressure her into anything. It’s just one of those mental turn-ons that popped up and stuck.
I’m struggling with how to even bring this up. I don’t want her to feel weird, judged, or like I’m asking her to do something unhealthy just for me. At the same time, I also don’t want to bottle it up forever if there’s a respectful way to talk about it.
For people in long-term relationships or marriages, how do you share a fantasy like this without making it uncomfortable or turning it into an obligation? Is this something better left as a private thought, or is there a healthy way to have the conversation?
Looking for honest advice, not judgment.