Sorry in advance, English is not my first language.
I (21F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been in our relationship for almost a year now, after 2 years of following me on insta, he finally found the courage to ask me out, and we dated for a month before becoming a couple. I know it's fast, but we went out at least 2-3 times a week, texted daily, and talked about many different topics (politics, religion, our expectations) but it seems like we did rushed a lot since the idea of me getting tattoed is becoming a problem.
In November I told him me and my siblings were getting a tattoo together (something we've been planing for years), and showed him the inspo, I know he doesn't like tattoos (his family is very religious, and he grew up in that environment so I understand), but didn't expect it to be such a big deal. He asked me where I was going to get it, and I told him in the back of my neck, he did not say a thing.
A couple of weeks passed, I stayed in his apartment, and right when we were going to sleep, he turned around and told me "Please, don't get a tattoo" I was too tired to discuss it, just told him that if the idea of me getting a tattoo was so disgusting for him, than he should reconsider our entire relationship. The next day he woke me up early to go drop me off, and the awkward conversation started, he told me that the tattoo was a big deal for him, that would be uncomfortable for him (specially in bed) and to please think about it, I was still half asleep and told him that I needed time to think.
We agreed to talk the next day, went to his apartment, and talked about it for hours, he first told me that the placement of the tattoo was the thing that disgusted him the most, since the neck in general is something that he finds amusing, I agreed to not make it in there since it would be really annoying and weird for him, but I was very clear about the fact that I WOULD GET IT, because I like them, and bc it was something I'll share with my siblings. After a really long back and forth we came to an agreement, I would not get tattoos on places he would definitely not tolerate, and he was going to respect it, and he did, I got the tattoo, didn't show it to him to not make in uncomfortable, and for the last month he accepted it (just made a few jokes about it).
The problem resurfaced a couple of days ago, when I told him I wanted to get a tattoo that one of my favorite anime character has (is located on her arm, same placement as the one I already have) and he didn't not like it, his entire face shifted to this serious and disappointed expression and told me "I thought we agreed that you were not getting any more tattoos", told him that wasn't the deal, I just agreed to getting them in places that wouldn't bother him, and he responded "Well than we will have a problem again, this is not what I agreed to", I wasn't in the mood for fighting, just asked him to drop me off at my house and stopped thinking about it.
But I am reconsidering my whole relationship now, all the months we spend together, the memories, the gifts, the long conversations, the intimacy and the way we cared for each other, does that means nothing if I have a tattoo? Would I be that disgusting if I had another drawing in my skin?
I love him, I really do, he is caring, thoughtful, he solves all my problems, takes me on dates, and most importantly, has an incredible relationship with my family, takes us on roadtrips, answers to all of my mom's "help me" calls, and is there for me, I don't want to give up this special thing I have, but I don't think is fair that I'll have to give up on my independence and personality just to please him…
Please give me your most honest and rude advice if necessary, I need to know if there's a way to fix this or If i need to open my eyes and make the hard decision.