My girlfriend had a fantasy of being used and completely dominated. I feel like I do a pretty good job at being dominant and such but what advice from others would you give on making this fantasy the best for her?
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You just have to be rough.treat her like a useless toy(only while sex ofc) and thats all give her your best 🙌
Ask her about writing out a script or sharing a story she read. Then follow that more or less.
Restrains really add to the feeling of being taken and dominated.
The only person who can really tell you is her. What we think isn’t important.
Maybe ask her if she’d light to roleplay something a little more violent? Maybe pretend you’re a stalker? She might not be into that but I know a lot of people who like those things
Communication and trust are first and foremost the most important things…. find what she wants specifically and make sure you’re ok with it.
Why are you asking us and not her? She’s the one you need to learn her boundaries and desires from.Â
The hard thing about domination is that everyone likes it in different ways on different levels with different limits. I would ask her what the worst thing she could experience would be that still is arousal and what her limits are. Also i would break it down into different categories. Dirtytalk, pain, roughness, forced, bondage, nasty, compliance, strangle. And ask what she likes most of each of those and on what level. Also i would ask what she would not like and how something could turn her off.
Any specifics that they didn’t want to hear might provide could be exactly what she wants or could be completely horrible. Talking to her and asking her about specifics is the only answer that has any value here.p
First, sit her down and go over what she wants or doesn’t want.
Does she like it when you put your whole hand around her throat? Does she want you to squeeze or use just enough strength to hold her?
Does she want spanked? How hard? Light imprints or purple bruises for days?
Does she want tied up? Don’t use rope. Too risky. Buy velcro restraints, cuffs and shackles and a spreader bar.
Does she want gagged? Hair pulled? Throat fucked? How hard? Does she want to be edged for hours? Or forced to cum with a vibrator until she can’t remember her own name?
It’s really her kinks you should be satisfying so make sure she tells you. Ask questions and get answers.
Plan every detail together so you can be comfortable in knowing her wildest desires but also her limits. You won’t be able to really get comfortable pushing it otherwise and she’ll sense that you’re holding back. But obviously you don’t want to go past her boundaries either so, planning and communication.
9 comments
You just have to be rough.treat her like a useless toy(only while sex ofc) and thats all give her your best 🙌
Ask her about writing out a script or sharing a story she read. Then follow that more or less.
Restrains really add to the feeling of being taken and dominated.
The only person who can really tell you is her. What we think isn’t important.
Maybe ask her if she’d light to roleplay something a little more violent? Maybe pretend you’re a stalker? She might not be into that but I know a lot of people who like those things
Communication and trust are first and foremost the most important things…. find what she wants specifically and make sure you’re ok with it.
Why are you asking us and not her? She’s the one you need to learn her boundaries and desires from.Â
The hard thing about domination is that everyone likes it in different ways on different levels with different limits. I would ask her what the worst thing she could experience would be that still is arousal and what her limits are. Also i would break it down into different categories. Dirtytalk, pain, roughness, forced, bondage, nasty, compliance, strangle. And ask what she likes most of each of those and on what level. Also i would ask what she would not like and how something could turn her off.
Any specifics that they didn’t want to hear might provide could be exactly what she wants or could be completely horrible. Talking to her and asking her about specifics is the only answer that has any value here.p
First, sit her down and go over what she wants or doesn’t want.
Does she like it when you put your whole hand around her throat? Does she want you to squeeze or use just enough strength to hold her?
Does she want spanked? How hard? Light imprints or purple bruises for days?
Does she want tied up? Don’t use rope. Too risky. Buy velcro restraints, cuffs and shackles and a spreader bar.
Does she want gagged? Hair pulled? Throat fucked? How hard? Does she want to be edged for hours? Or forced to cum with a vibrator until she can’t remember her own name?
It’s really her kinks you should be satisfying so make sure she tells you. Ask questions and get answers.
Plan every detail together so you can be comfortable in knowing her wildest desires but also her limits. You won’t be able to really get comfortable pushing it otherwise and she’ll sense that you’re holding back. But obviously you don’t want to go past her boundaries either so, planning and communication.