What quality do you most want to be appreciated for by your partner?
January 1, 2026
If your partner were to tell you there is one specific thing they cherish above all else about you, what would you want that to be?
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My resilience. I’ve been through a lot with abuse and still have things to overcome. I want a partner to appreciate that and the work I’m putting in without judgement.
My intellect.
And right after that, my amazing ass.
My ability (and labor) to soothe and connect everyone, how I am patient and hear more than harsh words, how I smooth emotions and make our home calm, warm and welcoming, a safe haven from the harsh world for my husband, my child, even extended family and friends.
I would appreciate that, but you maintain a positive or negative mindset, like blaming society or generally playing the victim and dwelling on the past in a negative and sad way. My ex-girlfriend was like that, yet I still admired her for getting a job and finding the means to support herself and her family—her mother and siblings.
Kindness, I think it’s a good trait to have and reflects well on the person if they value it well.
my ability to listen + how hard i work to ensure that they are taken care of / my own future (multiple extracurriculars, 2 jobs, etc etc)
For my silliness.
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I would say my cold-blooded personality. He always told me it was what impressed him the most.
Intelligence, insight, sense of humour, patience, body/work ethic, face/hair in that order.
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Trust
My thoughtfulness. I feel like I do really pride myself on thinking of others especially my husband and our daughter and just our family in general. And it would be really, really lovely if that was verbally appreciated more.
my brain/the way I think.
it’s not that I’m super intelligent or anything, but I think I have my own way of seeing and doing things and I like that I am good at figuring out the construction of stuff. It’s
I hope he values my saintly emotional patience, because between explaining what I feel, explaining it again, and not exploding… that’s a hidden talent. 😌
If he were to tell me, “I love what a good person you are even when you’re tired,” I’d already won.
How I don’t take no shit from anyone while remaining soft enough to care a lot about my people
It’s hard to pick tbh. how kind and considerate I am. how strong and resilient I have been..
I guess being appreciated for my big heart is enough
Making him laugh. I’ve seen a lot of memes about how women always say ‘humor’ is the most important thing in a partner when it’s actually appearance (I will not be touching on the incels undertones of that,) but over the course of my relationship I realized humor and fun truly *is* the most important thing for me, and equivalently I hope I can make him smile and laugh everyday too.
My love which encompasses will always try for them to make them happy, loyal to a fault, honest as can be, their biggest cheerleader, etc.
My resilience and the amount of love i have to give ❤️🩹
Resilience, I been thru a bit,, as we all have. I do find idk if this is men or if it’s my tase in men that they always seem to undervalue or under appreciate the things I have done/ achieved/ dealt with and put their friends on a pedestal or themselves
My boldness and confidence. Most men are intimidated by it.
All of it. I’m a good , unique, crazy mix. You can’t just take one facet out of it.
I’d want them to see me as someone who radiates kindness and a certain light. I want to be that person for others.
I’d also want them to notice how much I care for animals (and people).
I think I would love to be known as considerate and kind
My authenticity – I am always me and I want to be appreciated for being true to me and my thoughtfulness
My heart and my resilience
My patience and softness. I think those things are often mistaken for weakness, but what they never realised is that I chose those attributes, and I was quickly labelled as a terrible person when I finally withdrew them after everything they did. It would be nice for someone to see my softness and patience, and celebrate it rather than take advantage of it.
Also my resilience to have hope and positivity everyday.
Living by my convictions/doing the right thing, even if it is hard.
There are plenty of other things I know my partner cherishes but that one is probably most important to me because I am probably least sure I live up to it.
31 comments
My resilience. I’ve been through a lot with abuse and still have things to overcome. I want a partner to appreciate that and the work I’m putting in without judgement.
My intellect.
And right after that, my amazing ass.
My ability (and labor) to soothe and connect everyone, how I am patient and hear more than harsh words, how I smooth emotions and make our home calm, warm and welcoming, a safe haven from the harsh world for my husband, my child, even extended family and friends.
I would appreciate that, but you maintain a positive or negative mindset, like blaming society or generally playing the victim and dwelling on the past in a negative and sad way. My ex-girlfriend was like that, yet I still admired her for getting a job and finding the means to support herself and her family—her mother and siblings.
Kindness, I think it’s a good trait to have and reflects well on the person if they value it well.
my ability to listen + how hard i work to ensure that they are taken care of / my own future (multiple extracurriculars, 2 jobs, etc etc)
For my silliness.
[removed]
I would say my cold-blooded personality. He always told me it was what impressed him the most.
Intelligence, insight, sense of humour, patience, body/work ethic, face/hair in that order.
[removed]
Trust
My thoughtfulness. I feel like I do really pride myself on thinking of others especially my husband and our daughter and just our family in general. And it would be really, really lovely if that was verbally appreciated more.
my brain/the way I think.
it’s not that I’m super intelligent or anything, but I think I have my own way of seeing and doing things and I like that I am good at figuring out the construction of stuff. It’s
I hope he values my saintly emotional patience, because between explaining what I feel, explaining it again, and not exploding… that’s a hidden talent. 😌
If he were to tell me, “I love what a good person you are even when you’re tired,” I’d already won.
How I don’t take no shit from anyone while remaining soft enough to care a lot about my people
It’s hard to pick tbh. how kind and considerate I am. how strong and resilient I have been..
I guess being appreciated for my big heart is enough
Making him laugh. I’ve seen a lot of memes about how women always say ‘humor’ is the most important thing in a partner when it’s actually appearance (I will not be touching on the incels undertones of that,) but over the course of my relationship I realized humor and fun truly *is* the most important thing for me, and equivalently I hope I can make him smile and laugh everyday too.
My love which encompasses will always try for them to make them happy, loyal to a fault, honest as can be, their biggest cheerleader, etc.
My resilience and the amount of love i have to give ❤️🩹
Resilience, I been thru a bit,, as we all have. I do find idk if this is men or if it’s my tase in men that they always seem to undervalue or under appreciate the things I have done/ achieved/ dealt with and put their friends on a pedestal or themselves
My boldness and confidence. Most men are intimidated by it.
All of it. I’m a good , unique, crazy mix. You can’t just take one facet out of it.
I’d want them to see me as someone who radiates kindness and a certain light. I want to be that person for others.
I’d also want them to notice how much I care for animals (and people).
I think I would love to be known as considerate and kind
My authenticity – I am always me and I want to be appreciated for being true to me and my thoughtfulness
My heart and my resilience
My patience and softness. I think those things are often mistaken for weakness, but what they never realised is that I chose those attributes, and I was quickly labelled as a terrible person when I finally withdrew them after everything they did. It would be nice for someone to see my softness and patience, and celebrate it rather than take advantage of it.
Also my resilience to have hope and positivity everyday.
Living by my convictions/doing the right thing, even if it is hard.
There are plenty of other things I know my partner cherishes but that one is probably most important to me because I am probably least sure I live up to it.
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My tenderness and empathy towards everyone