I’ll try and keep this short; most of my sexual history have been casual encounters or hook up’s. I’ve not had much experience with relationships, however I’ve found myself in a relationship with a wonderful person for the past 1.5 years. I really am in love, and want this to work, however we don’t have a great sex life.
It is multifaceted, I think in some parts we are just into different things (eg I am more into foreplay and can be ok with just that, where for him he’s less interested in foreplay and is just interested in penetration). The other issue is that I am struggling to find myself aroused at all by him. I still get turned on at the idea of hooking up with others (I haven’t cheated nor am I planning to), but I can’t help but wonder if this is a symptom of most of my life having sex more spontaneously as a hook up, rather than sustaining sex with one person.
I don’t want that life again, I want to have a future with my partner however I’m just worried about our sex life (of lack thereof) when I can see neither of us are fulfilled or enjoying that aspect of our relationship.
Has anyone else had this struggle and how did you overcome it?