TL;DR:
I’m (25M) in an LDR with my girlfriend (24F) who gets angry easily and often threatens to break up during fights. I’m mentally exhausted and afraid to be honest because I don’t want to upset her. I feel guilty about leaving because she has personal struggles. Looking for advice from anyone who's been through something similar.
Hi everyone,
I’m feeling mentally drained in my long-distance relationship. My girlfriend gets angry very easily, sometimes over small things, and often takes out stress from other parts of her life on me. We have many disagreements, and she sometimes threatens to break up even when I don’t feel I’ve done anything wrong.
When I bring up how her anger affects me, she says things like:
“You used to be more patient with me.”
or
“I told you from the start I get angry easily.”
I’m tired of holding myself back and always being the one who has to understand. I often hesitate to say what I really feel because I’m scared she’ll get upset or start another argument. Our conversations rarely go deeper than surface level.
I also admit I’m sometimes too tired from work to communicate well, and she often initiates arguments when I’m at my lowest. This drains me emotionally and wears down my feelings.
She’s my first girlfriend, though she has had previous relationships. She has family problems and is currently unemployed. I think she has an anger issue, which makes things harder. I worry about leaving her, but I’m starting to question if this relationship is healthy or if I’m just staying out of guilt and fear.
I’m not looking for validation to stay or leave, just honest advice from people who understand.
Thanks for reading.