My girlfriend and I have been dating just short of 3 years now, we've been sexually active since about 3 months of dating ( yes ik very early but we were horny teenagers) shes been doing this thing where she will want to be all over me but never wants to actually have sex and at this point it feels like shes just messing with my body. She always tells me I need to change this or stop doing that etc etc stuff like acting more dominant in bed, being more rough, then less rough and she just keeps throwing me in a circle. She will be all up on me and teasing me the whole day( dirty talk, grabbing me etc) but then when it comes down to it she just tells me no and that I need to stop asking even though shes giving me signals all day and keeping me turned on right until she says no. This feels unfair because our sex life used to be great and steady. Now im lucky if we have sex once every 2-3 months. I would like to give context that this has been an issue for awhile but its even worse right now because im a trans man that started hormones about 2-3 months ago. So I have the drive of a 14 year old boy that just figured out his dick has more functions then just using the bathroom. Im lost. I dont understand why everything is something j need to change and that im the issue. I try to support her I really do and I want to stay with her but im genuinely struggling. She's not on any medication that effects libido and when I ask her to try anything to raise her libido she tells me its not her problem. Am I just being a dick??