I’m not super petite, I’m athletic (5’10” about 135lb) but my boyfriend is super heavy and strong (6’6” 220lb ish), and whilst he’s really gentle I keep getting crushed whilst doing my favourite positions (missionary and speedbump) and I genuinely can’t breathe and it gets painful which really distracts from enjoying the sex.
Positions where we aren’t pressed against each other can hurt aswell (like doggy or my legs over his shoulders) because his thrusts into me still feel super heavy even if he’s not going hard or fast and he is quite well endowed so positions like that can hit too deeply.
I’ve not had this issue with previous partners who were 6’5” and 6’7” but they were much skinnier so I think the fact he’s a lot heavier and more muscular is the issue rather than height.
Can anyone give advice on what to do to improve this? I really want to enjoy having sex with my boyfriend.
Edit to add: I can really enjoy somewhat rough sex (grabbing, slapping, hard fast thrusts) but not to the point of genuine pain and injury, i’m worried to introduce it because i’m struggling already with gentle normal sex. Even when we are sort of play fighting his strength is scary and I know he’s accidentally cracked someone’s ribs before. Is rough sex just not on the table really? What can we do?