We have been married for 14 years and we have 1 child. It really bothers me that we do not do fun things together, all 3 of us, or me and my husband. The child is always making plans, like to go to karting, and when we have to go my husband just says I don’t feel like it, go with mom. And we go, the kid and I, and it is fun, but it upsets me that we cannot do anything together.
It also bothers me that he did not want to be friends with any of the people that I have met here (we live abroad). They were nice families but he just wouldn’t go out to meet them and it was weird that he always couldn’t come ( I did try for a while to do it by myself and with the kid).
He also cut ties with the only other family we did keep in touch with (his former boss). That was because my husband felt like that friend was talking down to our kid because the kid plays videogames.
I feel isolated, and it makes me sad and angry when he would not wake up at 11 in the day to go to a thing our kid has scheduled for Christmas day.
It also bothers me that we never celebrate our wedding day, I never get presents (not on Christmas, not on my birthday).
I wish I did not marry. I would at least have my freedom and some friends (I think).
Or am I just being unreasonable? Maybe I am just upset and overreacting? He does do good things too: washes the dishes, groceries shopping, organizes our vacations etc.
I guess I am just looking for some advice on how to get over this, because I do not think I will change him. But on the other hand, I notice these things and they keep bothering me.