So we both are in college and since then i started really noticing how he lives. We have been dating for over a year. He is a gamer and all he does is game on his free time, i frequently visit him and he remains in his game for hours and its so frustrating that he wont pay a small amount of attention to me to the point i just leave without a conversation between us after hours of being in his room. We only go out to eat together. I have talked to him about being on the game for hours, however he mentions that thats his way of de stressing from work and his studies, as well as the fact that i should get some hobbies or do something that takes up my time instead of being around him all the time.
I agree on him that part which is slowly making me realize that i should maybe pick up a work study to occupy my time. However that is not all. Our sex life is limited and i have always been the one to initiate something(oral), as well as the fact that we have not had actual sex for about a year. I asked him why and sometimes even begged for something but he just responds with the fact that he is scared for me to get pregnant. I think that is ok but I do have to emphasize that I am always initiating something and not him .
I am the one that demonstrates the pda and he used to too. When our relationship started we would both kiss each other, hug each other, compliment each other. Now i realized its just me, for example on the rare occasion that he takes a break from gaming he hops in bed and i shower him with kisses while he remains on his phone, i remain complimenting and i reassure him that i love him. He just seems uninterested in me. Not to mention now that we are on our break and back home, i am always the one asking to see him. He has cancelled on me 3 times and all i would want to do is get something quick like a small dinner. I feel like i am a hassle to him and i believe that he does love me however he is just not in love with me anymore.
I know that this is ultimately going to lead to a breakup however i never show all this because he fixes it for a few weeks then goes back to his old ways. I am wondering if there is any alternative approaches before having to break up for good.
Tl;dr : i am dealing with a gamer boyfriend who seems to not be able to make the time of day to be with me, so when i told him about what i felt, he told me to go get a hobby to entertain myself. i am always initiating sex and i am always the one who seems to show him affection as well as the one who puts in efforts to make plans. We could go hours or even days without talking because of his game and he doesn’t seem to change his way of thinking. He mentions its how he’s always been. I am now looking for alternatives approaches to have this fixed between us before i have to break up with him for good.