Hopefully this is allowed–im technically not married any more, but it's about maybe getting married again.
I rcently got divorced after 11 years together. We have a 5 year old son. We are really good at coparenting. We're both working hard on ourselves. We talked about maybe getting back together one day. I want that more than he does right now.
He's also not 100% what I want in a relationship at this point. He can be very cold and distant, which creates self esteem issues in me (but that might have also been due to how I acted in the relationship when we were married–i had a spending problem which caused a lot of stress. I have that under control now and am actively working on myself).
I went over to his house today for Christmas with our son and we had a good day. We laughed and joked around. It felt like how it did when we first got together. Easy.
I really want someone who makes me feel loved and accepted for who I am. Who builds me up in ways I never knew were possible. I'm willing to do the work on myself to get myself to the point when I'm ready for that kind of love. I've never felt that kind of love before. Is it really out there?
I know no relationship is perfect. And things change over time. And I don't believe there is just one right person out there for you. But is true love–that deep, "I love you for everything you are" kind of love real?
If the opportunity to get back together would present itself, I might be settling if I get back together with my ex. Not that he's not a great guy, but maybe he's not right for me.
Maybe things will change as we grow as people. But maybe it won't.
Any advice? Thank you.