My husband and I have been together 10 years. We have two children. He was a heavy drinker for 8 years. He finally quit for good and is 2 years sober. I thought him no longer drinking would help him become a happier and healthier person. He gets angry and shuts down. He’d go days ignoring me. Even on our wedding night (we eloped) he got upset and disappeared and left me in the room for hours alone. For 10 years it’s felt like it’s been me compromising, forgiving, and fighting for things to work. Our main struggle, is communication. We did do therapy for a while, but stopped because he said “it wasn’t helping”. He’s very introverted, quiet, and private. I’ve loved and understood that part of him, just as long as he would attempt to be open with me at least. For years I’ve struggled with his walls. It feels as if he’s never let me in. We’ve had 1000s of hours of conversations about this. He “gets in his head” about things and spends days shutting me and everyone out. The past year I’ve noticed myself caring less and less about trying to communicate with him. The resentment has created such a disconnect between us. I find myself not wanting to try or even care. I’m just tired. I’m tired of communicating my needs and those needs being unmet. I look at myself and see someone who has spent the last 10 years pouring love into someone who will never receive any of it. I see someone who used to be empathetic, open, and loving now become a shell. I love him dearly, but not at the cost of myself. I’m tired. I’m all out of fight.