Me and my wife have been going through a separations and now a divorce. I guess? She approached me and told me she wanted to separate. Then later she said she wanted to divorce. But after lots of back and forth she tells me she actually never wanted the divorce yet proceeds to file for divorce and find another place of her own. I a had been feeling very guilty for my actions in our marriage but recently I learned something that shocked me. While at her apartment (while I thought we were on track to reconcile and stop the divorce) I found some texts between her an a guy from school. These texts were around the same time we were getting separated and we never officially talked about seeing other people. She reaches out to the guy and asks if he wants to hang out. They end up going out a few time all the while I was told nothing about this and wasn’t seeing anyone else. We were in fact still in living in the same apartment. She is texting the guy things like “I was thinking about you” and “thanks for the hugs and the talk”. So it’s clear that she is emotionally venting to this guy that I have no ideas about. In another thread she also texted her cousin saying the guy was “fine”. I discovered this and approached her about it. She became very defensive and said that it was so long ago and that they were just friends. When I told her this she storms out of her apartment and drives somewhere random. Additional note at the time of us separating she stopped sharing her location with me. She says this was due to her past trauma. People of Reddit especially women. Am I tripping or was this emotional cheating or possibly worse. She also ended up doing a school project with the guy and went out for drinks. Also without me knowing but this was more recent. I’ve never known her to with hold info from me or lie but now this has me questioning everything. I confronted her the next day over texts about how this was emotional cheating and she blocked me. 😄