We have been dating for 1 year, I'm Asian and he is European. We always have some communication issues.
I don't (almost never) want to change my partner, he just need to be himself, but my partner always not happy with part of my personality or behaviors. Like being outside, in front of him, or even typing to him.
Ex, today we discussed SAAS through whatsapp, I mentioned the pure SAAS quite rare in this country, and he didn't agree. We actually didn't have fight, but when I back from shower, i saw he sent me:
[2025/12/30, 10:16:10 PM] You have a tendency to state things that are flat out wrong as facts. You do it quite regularly. My advice to you is to only state things as a fact if you are very sure about it, or else you’ll come across as ignorant. I have stopped trusting your words because of this.
[2025/12/30, 10:18:37 PM] In nearly every discussion on a serious topic you’ll say something which is simply wrong. I’ve never met anyone who does that, so I’m not sure what to think of it. Sometimes you can make very good and clear arguments, but most of the times you say stuff thats almost insane. So I’m not sure what I should take seriously and what I should not.
[2025/12/30, 10:19:14 PM] When you share a fact now my first instinct is to assume it is a lie
[2025/12/30, 10:20:08 PM] (I’m saying this with respect. Think you should know this in case you start working with clients. I also think its important for our relationship.)
[2025/12/30, 10:20:56 PM] For me personally, if I’m not very knowledgeable about a topic I won’t state my opinions as facts, or I’ll just say that I don’t know.
[2025/12/30, 10:22:01 PM] It has been worrying me, which is why I think it’s important for our relationship
Yeah… I just suddenly got VERY ANNOYED and sent "what's wrong with you?"
He always said changing is for my own sake, i'm too stubborn, or he didn't have conflict with his ex etc… I really love him but I think it is something wrong with this relationship, but not sure what to do. Does he need to go to therapy? or do I need to instead? Am I too stubborn?