Men of AskMenOver30! In the interest of creating a deeper, more engaging, and more relevant community for all of us, we've implemented a recurring, Weekly Wednesday check-in thread.
- How are you doing this week?
- How are you feeling this week?
- How have things changed from last week (if at all)?
- Are you proud of anything you've done this week?
- Are you struggling with anything this week?
- Do you need advice or feedback on anything that's happening?
Feel free to share your wins, losses, and general progress. You can talk about anything from work and career, to personal projects, to personal development and family, to friendships and socialization, even dating.
Life is ongoing, and sometimes it's good to have a community around us that can reflect that. Hopefully this weekly check-in will serve as a good tool and outlet for those who need it.
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1: doing well so far
2: feeling great overall. an hour or so ago my partner irritated me with a snarky comment but breathing exercises helped control my response lol
3: i learned how to make home made salsa, mothers recipe. so that’s that.
4: yes, i started oil painting again. very soothing and relaxing.
5: not that i can think of.
6: i’m 5’7 and around 150. not sure if i should continue losing weight or start toning up and building muscle.
Doing alright.
Working tonight from 3-11:30 so hoping for a chill NYE.
Doggie is healthy and I am too.
Hoping to get my business off the ground in 2026 and add some extra cash in the bank
• How are you doing this week?
This week has been one of the harder weeks I’ve had over the last three months. I’ve been coming down on myself over the break up I experienced, even though I felt like I had been making incredible progress. It’s just been an assessment of who I am as a person, the ways I showed up poorly, the things I will be changing moving forward. It’s been painful and it’s kept me from sleeping, honestly.
• How are you feeling this week?
I’ve been taking extra steps to comfort and calm my nervous system and I’m not succeeding. Meditation, walks, workouts, journaling have all increased significantly. I’m really aware of damage I’ve taken earlier in my life around my inner-child/goofball. I’m scared I let him die and now I’m going to spend a lot of time in the upcoming months trying to bring him back. I’m hopeful we can find our self again, but I’m devastated that I wasn’t able to see this.
• Are you proud of anything you’ve done this week?
I hit my longest ruck since I began rucking at a heavier weight than I was a few weeks ago. My body looks better in a mirror than I’ve seen it in years. And, I’m actually doing the work even with regression staring me right in my fucking eyes.
• Do you need advice or feedback on anything that’s happening?
If anyone has done any work on their inner-child, please feel free to reach out on what worked. Any guidance or thoughts would be welcome.
Just took a nap haha
How I’m *doing*? Can’t complain really. Last year around this time I was sick as a dog, guessing RSV. No bugs that have been going around yet, knock on wood. I got this afternoon off, tomorrow off, working Friday and then Saturday and Sunday off.
How am I *feeling*? My plans just don’t wanna come to fruition this year … People change plans and cancel plans as life gets in the way. I’m gonna get dinner with friends tonight.
Nothing really changed this week, but this has been one hell of a year, good and bad … Keep an eye on your insecurities guys. No matter how old you are, they seem to come out unless you confront them/are aware of them.
I guess I’m proud that I’m not struggling with anything haha
This week is good & annoying – Mom & Stepdad are still visiting for the holidays so our kid is happy to play with their grandparents. Got about 2-3 feet of snow in 2 days, that wasn’t fun to clear out.
I’m feeling alright. I’m indifferent towards New Years so the idea of “it’s a new you!” doesn’t really motivate me however it may be a good excuse to make some changes soon.
Wife & I are still working on our intimate life. It’s a process. This year started off with nothing the first 6 months (several years of single-digits annually and then 3 months of nothing right before 2025) until I asked for a sit-down to talk about things and get them on track. Things have been better the rest of the year but I’m still, I don’t know, dubious of the whole thing.
I can’t square the idea that you can let the sex life die in your relationship/marriage but then your partner has a sit-down with you and suddenly you’re back at it, like a kid that got distracted for a second & had to be reminded to keep sweeping the floor. A kid does that, sure, attention-span & all that, but not your partner. They’re adults, they have free will, autonomy, complex thoughts/emotions, etc., so like how is that possible? How can someone just check-out like that? We did therapy for a few months and there wasn’t really anything to be learned.
I think it really comes down to the fact that some people prioritize different relationship/marriage dynamics than others. I also think that men will more likely prioritize the sexual intimacy dynamic and women generally won’t, and that’s just how it is sometimes.
40 is on it’s way. I’ve got about ten months to get my ass in good physical shape. I had this thing when I turned 35. I told myself “I’m done being overweight.”. well, I’m 39 and still the same amount overweight. It’s not extreme, but it’s enough to cause preventable health problems later on in life. I started right after Christmas, doing bodyweight calisthenics and other difficult exercises using a pull up bar, rings, exercise ball, and two 30lb dumbbells. Might as well get a start before the new year. It’s fun working out in the garage right now. It’s well below freezing so it makes me feel badass like Rocky out there. I already feel better mentally and physically. It’s just a matter of remaining consistent.
Doing alright, currently just got off work, nursing a hangover from a coworker goodbye party yesterday, and just generally indifferent to NYE celebrations. Looking forward to a quiet evening and early bed time.