Me 34M and my wife 34F, have been together since we were 15, married at 20 and have two beautiful daughters 14F and 10F. Our relationship has always been pretty solid until I would say about 5 years ago. Idk what happened but my wife changed, which i mean I know people change but she has changed drastically from the woman I fell in love with.
She has become down right hateful towards people other then me and the kids. She complains about every little thing, even small things just set her off. Now, I know from when we started dating she had a rough child hood. A abusive dad, a mom who just never spoke up for her and pretty much raised her younger brother. She refuses to get therapy and wont even do marriage counseling just to talk about this stuff.
I am at wits end. I can't handle what she has become, I still love her, but the constant pitching and complaining is wearing me down. Worse is I can see my eldest daughter becoming distant from her, afraid to upset her so she is quite when wife is around. Idk what to do and I am not one to ask for advice but I need something from someone who maybe has been in this same situation. I am to the point that the divorce words keep crossing my mind more and more, but deep down I just want the woman I fell in love with back but dont know what to do.
Any advice is appreciated, I dont post on reddit much more just a reader but I am so lost, so depressed from this im desperate.