So I have no other way to word this other than; I'm feeling destroyed inside.
My future wife (27) (living abroad) and I (36) are destined to marry in the big 2027, but we are in the midst of all preparations and just last week she contacted a solicitor to prepare a standard prenup, so we can discuss and work out the kinks and insecurities between us.
The prenup seems fair, but in all honesty I feel weird when I read the part where it states that our pre-marital assets stay our own, yet my current (inherited parental) house will be divided 50/50 upon divorce, even though my fiancée has substantially more funds than me even at this moment. (my parents both passed away in the past 7 years, and her parents are still alive)
I'm now not sure if this is unequal footing, or I'm just having cold feet.
I sense the issues triggered me greatly, because while I'm emotionally ok, I suffer from an intense feeling of nervousness thinking about the implications, also because I don't know how to word this insecurity / feeling without insulting my fiancée or giving her the idea that I'm afraid to commit.
How should I proceed? I definitely want to be with her, but I've always had the habit of preparing for the worst, and it's sending shivers down my spine….