I 21F have been with my boyfriend 20F or almost two years. He doesn’t work or go to school, and he also doesn’t have his driver’s license. I’m currently in school and really trying my best to graduate and move forward with my life.
My family is very religious (Christian), and they strongly disapprove of him. They openly talk badly about him without hiding it, which makes me feel a lot of guilt and stress. Even though I care about him, hearing those comments and seeing the differences between our lives has been weighing on me.
Lately I’ve been feeling bad in the relationship because he doesn’t take initiative or responsibility, and it feels like I’m growing while he’s stuck. It’s especially hard when I see my friends’ boyfriends working, studying, driving, and being more independent. I hate comparing, but I can’t ignore how lazy he seems and how much it bothers me.
I feel torn between loving him and feeling disappointed, guilty, and embarrassed at times. I don’t know if these feelings are normal, if I’m being unfair, or if this is a sign I should rethink the relationship.
Any advice or perspective would really help.