My wife and I are in our early thirties. We aren’t physically intimate very often, less than once a month.
The last few times I have been unable to finish and end up just saying I did. I think part of the issue is that I put so much effort into her finishing first that I trained my body not to finish at all. It may also be because she only ever initiates during the day which I really don’t like because even though I work from home I have a very intense and high pressure job that keeps me very busy and I’m way too stressed during working hours to relax, but I accept the offer because they are so few and far between.
I’ve thought about being honest and admitting what’s been going on but I think she wil be insulted and it will make our sex life even worse.