I [33F] have been dating this guy [29M] for a little over a month. Everything has bene going good: he texts me everyday, he makes plans for the dates, he's started opening about some of his vulnerabilities and I feel like out relationship Is progressing overall. He even went to buy food at the supermarket to Cook for me on new year's Eve that he decide to spend with me despite his friend's invitation.
There's only One thing that Is bugging me: I Snooped through his Instagram and I noticed that he has a couple of female profiles from out out area that post family provocative pictures and he constastly hit "like" on them. This Is making me very insecure and gives me the feeling that he's keeping his options open.
Do you think It Is something I have to worry about? I must add that we haven't talked about being esclusive yet. I also surfer from anxiety, so Please be kind in your answer. Thank you.
TLDR: Guy I've bene dating for a month Is liking a couple of girls' provocative photos on Instagram and It makes me insecure
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Wait what? Is this a bot? How did he make you food on New Year’s Eve if youve only been dating for a month?
I hope he leaves you lmao, so stupid.
Liking pictures is meaningless. There is nothing to worry about
I had this problem once with a boyfriend in my late 20s / early 30s within the first month of dating too. I told him his likes of other girls showed up on mine & everyone’s feed and I didn’t think it was relationship material / wanted to break up bc a “like” is signaling interest to these girls – he apologized and cleaned his profile. Didn’t force him to do anything. Others may disagree with my confrontation, but it gives these men an opportunity to grow!
Leave him
It’s an IG like. It’s not that serious.
I like all sorts of ppl on IG doesn’t mean I wanna date them
Tell him you dont like it.
If he smiles and says hell do what it takes to make you happy, keep him.
If he complains, pretend he is an ugly man and treat him how youd treat ugly men.
Men just are sexual beings. We are much more wired for the physical side of things than women.
In 2025, porn is everywhere, you comment on X and 15 onlyfans girls are in replies trying to clickbait people to their links, and IG is filled with photos where women “thirst trap”
As a man growing up in this type of world, it kind of feeds in to our brains and becomes part of the dopamine cycle. We don’t plan to cheat or have any false hopes this IG model is going to msg me to date. Instead they just see hot woman, hit like, and tell the app “yeah more of that in my feed”.
I would say in your case please don’t let this ruin your relationship and the real solution is to bring it up to him. If this makes you uncomfortable then express that to him and if he can’t make that change then I’d find a new man.
All this being said I still even have married friends who watch porn when the wife is away for the weekend. It’s not like they want to cheat or don’t love their wives, we just like to nut. It’s kinda rude and blatant for me to simplify it like that but we do, men are animalistic tbh.
Don’t think liking videos in Instagram should be a deal breaker, that’s like saying you can’t date a guy who looks ar porn,
One suggestion, three clarifying questions:
1) Fuck more, problem solved.
2) Who spends more time on IG, you or him?
3) Who follows more people on IG, you or him?
4) Who has more followers on IG, you or him?
Not having social media is a red flag. Using social media and liking an innocent picture is also a red flag. You can’t sin with some people.