I am a newly single mom of 3 young kids. Though the marriage had emotional and sexually ended few years ago but we just officially went out separate ways few months ago. Now I met a younger guy whom I have tried to get away from me, but he won't stop. I have told him to go be with someone his age. He said he has always been more interested in older women. I am 40 and he is 35.
Now, I have always just wanted kids with same man but when my marriage started to fail about 4 years ago, I told myself if separation/divorce ever happens, I will be opened to getting married again and maybe have one or two more kids. If i had my way, I am very ok with the 3 I have, but because I never know where life will throw me, I gave myself a 20% possibility to having more kids and 80% to 'i wish i don't have to'.
We got talking deep today and he still shows great interest. His last relationship too was with a single mom of 4 before she passed away about 2 years ago.
I don't know, having kids in my early to mid 40s just seem like an extreme sport.
Sometimes I just feel like being a mom of 3, my options are not as vast, notwithstanding, I plan to date for a while before considering that I am in a relationship because I made that error by not knowing my ex well enough (long distance) before jumping into the marriage.
my questions, does the age gap matter? is having kids over the age of 40 advisable? should I just let him go and hope to meet someone who may not want kids? at what point is it ok to let the kids meet him (should the relationship thrive