Am I tripping ? Maybe I’m just not as close to my own mother. Maybe it’s cause I don’t have a father and don’t understand opposite sex parent – adult child relationships… idk
My husband seems to heavily prioritize calling his mother everyday above other things, I don’t see a problem with that. They talk multiple times a day everyday. We moved to live closer to his parents under the guise of me having help with our baby(now toddler) which never happened. His mother helps me in the way of cooking a meal for my child a few times a month and his dad drops it off. I appreciate that since my child won’t eat take out or microwave typical kids meals. That’s where the help ends. That’s okay. Fine.
When my daughter was a baby, he would act like he was going to an appointment and had to be at his mother’s at a certain time. He’d say I was making him late. And leave me with the baby .
When I was in labor having the hah he kept leaving to talk to his mom on the phone / smoke cigarettes and almost missed the birth
His first child’s mother and him bought a dream home with lawsuit money and he somehow convinced her to move in with his mom while it was worked on, but they just never moved into the home at all …
He tried to convince me to temporarily move there a couple years back but I said no way cause I knew it would be forever
But yesterday——
Christmas Day… he is Jewish , his family is Jewish. I’m not. We all ate sandwiches. His mom couldn’t make it because she is sick with a cold. His mom likes sushi… my husband left our Christmas gathering and waited over an hour for Asian food.. one person at my Christmas gathering said they’d get some Thai wings (it’s an appetizer) this person loves sandwiches and already had one earlier. She only ordered them for something to order. he insisted he needed to bring the food here to my home, and then bring his moms to her. I asked him why he wouldn’t just drop his moms off and then be home for our Christmas thing.. he wouldn’t give a straight answer. Oh and his dad was here who was gonna be driving back to his house soon where mom lives and could have brought it… so my husband quickly left, said he’ll be right back. Didn’t say bye to anyone, not even our 3 year old. No “goodnight” or anything. Which made everyone assume he’d be dropping mom’s sushi off then coming right back… but no. He needed to go visit with his mom in the middle of our Christmas gathering. It was 7 people total including us so one missing is noticeable. They don’t even celebrate Christmas … it’s not like she was home sick and felt left out. He felt he needed to bring her sushi and it couldn’t wait … he plannned it this way. Because before he picked up the food I asked why he wouldn’t just drop moms off then come back home. He wouldn’t give an answer . The asian food took way longer than expected so he was gone half the party as it was . He ended up telling me that it’s rare for his whole family to be together. Meaning his mom and dad and him an older daughter. Which is totally untrue because he goes to his mom’s all the time, and they are all there. His brother went there, even though his brother was invited to our house. And he didn’t even tell his older daughter and dad because they were sitting here at my house. I think it’s really bizarre that he would leave his wife and toddler on Christmas to go hang out with his mother and bring her food when he talks to her multiple times every day and he sees her probably five times a week. And she doesn’t even celebrate Christmas. This is not the only weird thing it’s just one on top of everything else.
But I have to stop writing now because my baby woke up. I just think it’s crazy that he couldn’t be here to put her to bed on Christmas because he thought his mom needed sushi at that exact moment. He literally just hung out there the day before Christmas Eve too. And Christmas Eve he wasn’t home because he decided he was gonna go gamble at the casino….