My (25F) boyfriend (28M) had the kids conversation a few months ago. He is 100% certain he wants kids, I was still unsure. Family is the most important thing to him, so he asked me to think about it and give him an answer.
For the last few months I’ve been reading, talking to people and doing a lot of thinking, and I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t want children. There is a slight chance I’ll change my mind in my 30s, but I don’t want to base my answer on uncertainties.
He would be an absolutely amazing father, I have no doubts! I have so much love for that man, but I just can’t take away the one thing he wants most in his life.
I know I need to end this relationship now (it’s relatively fresh, we’re coming up on one year), because the longer I wait, the harder it will be on both of us. It’s a good relationship with amazing communication, I love him so much, but I do logically understand that children are a dealbreaker and can’t be compromised on.
My biggest concern is how he will handle it. What will it do to him to have his partner dump him over wanting a family? That’s why I’m looking for people who have been through this to hear about your experiences.
Have you found a new partner who shares your lfie goals and are you happier? Have you ever thought of giving up kids to be with your child free partner? (I don’t believe you should make that sacrifice)