My 25M husband and I 24F when we first got together used to be intimate all the time, from little touches in the day to sex multiple times a day. We are now 2 years in married and I’d say for the past about a year now I’ve had a lot of issues surrounding anxiety when it comes to sex or other intimacy, an example whenever he goes to obviously initiate what would be a sensual touch I get an immediate pit at the bottom of my stomach and I am so nervous, during I find myself disassociating. When I dissociate obviously my husband notices and it makes him feel terrible as I don’t seem “into it” and a lot of times just go with it in order to get it over with. It has gotten to the point my husband does not feel as though he is desired or wanted and has put a major strain on our relationship. For further context I was adopted from a neglectful and abusive home and there were early reports from CPS about me being assaulted however I can’t verify anything because I was so young I don’t remember but I have these lingering side effects, I was then adopted into a home with a heavy amount of physical, mental, and emotional abuse following that, I’ve come a long way from those things and it’s not an excuse but I am looking for maybe any advice on how to overcome these things.


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