Me and my sex partner have been intimate on and off these past 2 years. I enjoy having sex with him but I'm not satisfied. It feels good but I can never orgasm (which I kinda made peace with since I heard most women don't actually orgasm during sex). And I always want "more". We have talked about kinks and we have very similar interests. The last few times we have talked about sex, I have mentioned adding things to spice it up. But he always has an excuse. He's either not ready, or it's a "we'll get there eventually", or "we'll start slow". Which I agree that we should work our way up to the intense things. But the only thing we've added in the last 2 years were dildos. It makes me quite sexually frustrated. I want to do something exciting, something that makes me feel scandalous and sexy. But I also don't want to be pushy about it. The last thing I want is someone feeling pressured to do things with me. How do I communicate my needs in the bedroom without being so pushy or dismissive of his?