Anyone else always feel sad after Christmas and birthdays? I just feel like I put so much effort into everyone and get the bare minimum in return. No one even planned a birthday party for me this year-although over the 12 years of our marriage, I've had exactly two birthday parties. I even typically buy my own cake. My husband's excuse for not buying my birthday cake is that I'll get a free dessert at a restaurant on my birthday. My husband's excuse this year for the birthday party was that we were in the process of moving. We still had parties and gifts for him and the kids this year.
Then Christmas comes. I got a stand mixer. A really expensive stand mixer. I don't bake. I don't like baking. In the entire 12 years of our marriage, I have never really baked. My only two other gifts are two sweaters that are two sizes too small and fully outside the return window by a solid 60 days. Like, what?
Meanwhile I got my husband almost everything he asked for. Same with my kids! And I had to drive two hours to get one of their gifts because I couldn't find it around where we lived. A few years ago I got an instant pot. Leading up to Christmas I told my husband several times I did not want an instant pot because they were really popular that year and I didn't want to risk getting one haha. Imagine my surprise when that was exactly what I got. It sat unused for years until we sold it at a yard sale.
I send my husband ideas all throughout the year. I personally keep lists of things my kids are into and stuff my husband has been interested in so come Christmas and birthdays, I have plenty of ideas. I thought if I'd send stuff to my husband throughout the year he'd get the hint. He does not.
My daughter got to play Santa to pass out all the presents and she was like, mom I can't find any presents for you! I'm sorry mom. I just told her it's okay, I didn't ask Santa for much this year.