I got divorced after being married for 10 years. The last few years were pretty terrible and no sex. A few years after divorce, I was ready to start dating. As Ali Wong would say, I had divorce mom energy and just wanted to get dicked down. I wanted my prefrontal cortext banged right out of me. So I was on the hunt for some good respectable no strings attached exploratory sex. That was 2 years ago. Over the past 2 years, I think I'm evolving. Sex seems less attractive and seems meaningless now. What does this mean? Im not interested in just random sex anymore. It seems empty. It doesn't seem fun.
For the past 9 months Ive been seeing this guy. Im not one for labels but if I had to label it, id say it's a FWB. We have a great time together, laughing, joking, talking and the sex is getting better. When we have sex it's very emotion based. I'm not committing and dating him as a steady bf because I'm not intellectually stimulated by him the way I want to be from a romantic partner. I don't have the emptiness feeling with him, it's more a feeling of friendship on my end but he's very much feeling romance on his end. Which he knows and we talk about it
So I'm still going on dates once in a while but I don't just want sex anymore. I want to meet someone I really want to be with.
If I have sex with someone I'm not emotionally vested in, I suspect it will feel empty. What does the feeling of emptiness mean?