So this has been a theme with my wife and I throughout our 22 year marriage. My wife has a tendency to just shut me out and go into a victim complex when things don't go her way. Just the latest example, she ran out of refillable minutes on her cell phone and was trying to renew them, but we were in the middle of nowhere and she had poor reception. It was raining buckets outside and I was driving when she asked to tether her phone to mine. I asked her if she could just wait until we get to my parents house, which was just an hour away. She proceeded to drop my phone on the floor, turn away from me and stare out the windows for the rest of the ride.
Now, we get to my mom's house and she just continues to pout and ignore what's going on. I told her that I feel hurt and that I don't like it when she shuts me out. As usual, she just ignores me. So yeah, not the first time. Other times she has gotten up and left me at places out of nowhere with no explanation as to what it going on. After all the smoke clears, it somehow is always my fault, or I should not have said something to her in a specific way.
Otherwise she is a good mother and manages to be less harsh with the daughter when she is in those moods. For myself, Im teetering on what to do.