Hello. I f 24 and my husband m26 have been together for 6 years married for 2. I know that seems young but it was definitely love as first sight and we just clicked so well, we have seriously never been apart since the day we met. A little backstory as well we live together & are very sufficient without ever needing help from anyone in either of our families. We share an 8 month old and have one on the way. Additionally, We are christian but are not religious, (we believe and pray, read our bibles but do not attend a church regularly)
Anyways- now the reason why im really here.
So i watch youtube, shows, movies, etc. My husband, basically ONLY watches STREAMERS like twitch and kick. Im not going to name any in specific because i dont know if u can get in trouble for that but anyways, we use to watch them together and i actually didnt mind it, they were pretty funny at times. But over the years people change things change and blah blah. The streamers he was watching werent just playing video games or telling life stories, they began openly and (id say) proudly cheating on their s/o. One of them broke up with their girlfriend and then had like 20 strippers come over to stream. One of them cheated on their long term girlfriend which everyone knew the name of and then said it was for the views. They since broke up and now a good amount of his streams the women are half naked and running around. Id make comments telling him thats weird, why are u watching that. But hed always just sweep it under the rug. It didnt really bother me a whole lot to start an argument but it did make me insecure, im sure the pregnancy hormones didnt help as well. Well now here we are, december of 2025 he still watches them and i ignore it. Until he looked over at me to tell me something about his video, ‘babe look this girl gets a contract with 80 percent on her OF’ I look over and hes watching 4 OF models and one streamer lol.
At that time i very sternly and openly made my concerns clear so that he couldn’t confuse them. I told him thats it made me very uncomfortable and i didnt want him watching a bunch of naked women for hours on stream. He got annoyed and said i was over reacting and then flipped it onto me saying i do the same. At the time i didnt know wtf he was talking about, i literally finished all seasons of us shameless this month and before that it was greys anatomy lol.! The point is though, if i did something to upset him, he never brought it up and only is now to deflect the issue being on him.
He put his phone away didnt finish the stream and went to sleep, I already knew he was going to finish the stream and not listen to me but i didnt want to check his phone or bring it up or argue.
Then he brought it up about 2 days later trying to defend himself. He said i watch love island…?
I watched season 1 Love island and that was WITH him! And it was only because of the new hype with the huda season on tiktok but i decided that love island definitely wasnt for me and i havent seen another season or episode since. I told him thats that wasnt an excuse and he didnt mind it when he was watching it with me, like hed call it cringe bc it was but thats all. I told him ive told him numerous times in the past it makes me uncomfortable like these guys put these girls on stream bc they are trying to obtain a certain viewer field, which he is in! Sometime in the conversation he confirmed that he did finish the stream despite me clearly asking not to and setting my boundaries. I dont know.. like i said maybe its pregnancy hormones or maybe its just me overthinking, I just feel like my feelings are dismissed.
I would really like to know if im in the right or wrong but please be nice if u think im wrong lol. (Be nice to him too) I think i added all the points but if i forgot something i will add later.