Brother in law came to Christmas with us yesterday. He is financially comfortable with a successful business and him and his wife have no kids. They spend most of their money on travelling a lot.
We are financially comfortable but not minted by any means and have three kids. Paying for Christmas dinner for 12 people was doable but a bit of a push when the rest of the expense was factored in. MIL asked what help they could give and offered to get some items which we were grateful for. We were clear we wouldn’t/couldn’t provide alcohol for everyone on the day and asked people to bring some.
BIL brought nothing. We opened a bottle of champagne and offered a glass to everyone and he then proceeded to constantly keep asking for more all day. At the end we just didn’t have it so my partner said that. He then pushed back on that.
He is a 45 yr old man and seemed to think this was a free for all despite being reminded ahead of time that wasn’t the deal.
If Someone suggests you spend Christmas together what is your thought around who provides what?