(31F) and my husband (38M) have been living in a state I tolerate but don’t want to raise my kids in for the past 3.5 years because of his job. I’ve tried to make it work, but I genuinely can’t stand living here anymore. I feel deeply unhappy and isolated.
All of my family is in another state. When we visit them, my kids are noticeably happier, more engaged, and surrounded by people who love them. I miss having support, community, and a sense of belonging. Here, I don’t have any of that.
My husband’s career is tied to this state, and I honestly don’t think he will ever move. We’ve talked about it many times, but it always feels like the conversation goes nowhere or gets pushed off. I feel stuck between my marriage and my mental health.
I’m not trying to issue ultimatums or force him to give up his career—but I also don’t know how much longer I can live somewhere that makes me feel this isolated. I’m starting to resent the situation, and I don’t want that to turn into resentment toward him.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you navigate choosing between staying for your spouse’s career and moving closer to family/support for your own well-being and your kids
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You can try a thing, you convince him to make a home , You select a location where you want to live , when the home completes , your husband will also ready to let you live with your kids there