My husband has been an alcoholic for several years now. He doesn’t drink every day, or even every week but when he does he can’t stop. It’s led to some really toxic situations , including him getting arrested (for not letting me leave the house to get away )and having to go to court. There have been so many instances where he’s been verbally abusive and drives drunk. Earlier this year I mentioned divorce and he full on panicked. He claimed he would do “anything” to make it work. I said I needed 2 things : him to go to AA as well as regular therapy sessions. He refused to do either and instead quit cold turkey. Over the past few weeks I’ve seen him slipping . At first it was “I’ll just have 1 beer at this event” . Then next time it’s 2 , then 3 and sure enough he slipped back into getting drunk again several weeks ago. Even though nothing bad happened it still bothers me – because the risk for bad behavior is there again . He doesn’t take this seriously and even though he has done better recently I still can’t seem to get over the damage he’s caused in our marriage in the past. I’ve been going to therapy regularly to work through these feelings – but it’s getting to a point where I feel I’m putting in all the work for the both of us and he’s not doing anything. He’s not a bad person – but I truly don’t know who he is when he drinks. I can’t look at him the same. Not sure what to do from here