My now boyfriend isn’t a virgin, but i am, and i’m nervous. I’m nervous he’ll be annoyed about taking it slow, about how bad i’ll probably be, how nervous i’ll be, and im just anxious. i’m worried he’ll leave me. I wish i had lost my virginity when i had the chance.
Any advice? Do i ask him to take it slow? let him take control as he knows how to actually have sex? or just keep worrying about it😭
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Talk to him about it, he should be able to respect and adjust himself to your pace and to make sure he does everything in his power to make you feel good. That’s what sex should be about in a relationship, especially, if he loves you.
If you don’t feel comfortable having sex with him then don’t, please. Stay safe
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Yes you can ask him. Your body your rules
If he’s annoyed, consider it a huge red flag. No one should pressure you or be allowed to take you for granted. It’s your body, mind and self…you make the rules
I think most men wouldn’t mind at all.
If he is the right person to have sex with, he will take a lot of care to address each of your conserns and will make the experience all about you. If he acts like he doesn’t care what you want or need, you should stop right away.
If you don’t talk to him about what your very normal and reasonable needs are, then you shouldn’t he having sex with him.
Always keep this as your rule: never have sex that you don’t want. You can stop at any time and you can always withdrawl consent. If something doesn’t feel right you need to communicate that right away. Any man worth having sex with will be concerned and attentive to your needs.
You can always say “baby, stop for a sec, something doesn’t feel right… ” and talk about what your experience is.
Please use birth control.
If he doesn’t respect you enough to take it slowly and make sure you are comfortable then he doesn’t deserve to be your boyfriend.
Just because he had sex doesn’t mean he knows how. So yeah, tell him to take it slow and tell him that you’re nervous. And no, he won’t leave you. Most guys prefer their girlfriends to be virgins, but it is not a deal breaker when they are not. When it hurts, let me know so he won’t go too fast. Let’s hope he knows what he’s doing. Good luck and have fun!!!
Oh, your first time won’t feel all that great. But it will continue to feel better as you get more experience.
tbh it’s a universal experience to regret who you lost ur virginity to especially as a woman. if he’s upset with u for not knowing how to have sex then that sounds like a him problem tbh. if he leaves u, also a him problem and u dodged a bullet. a lot of people say virginity is a social construct anyways.
how do you feel about losing your virginity to him? is he truly the person u want to lose it to? have u guys had conversations about how it will happen or how YOU envision it to happen?
Honestly this is a non-issue all around. There isn’t going to be any concern about what you’re worried or anxious about so rest easy. I would think you are with a guy that is going to make you feel comfortable and care about it all. Has there been signs of him disrespecting you? I think you’re overthinking this entirely.
Keep in mind you are giving him something special, so he should give you special treatment in return.
Damn people here always go to the rape vibe.
I don’t think is is asking if she should let him do it like forcing sex on her.
It seems like she is asking during sex should she be submissive and just let him take control
I just think you are worried to much. Sex is not that big of a deal. If you want to do it do it. And in the moment you will know what to do. Stop trying to plan it out.