I am married in my early 40's and have always had issues achieving a truly great orgasm from sex, as opposed to masturbation.
This is due to the moment of orgasm, not knowing whether to keep thrusting during climax or to be stationary. Either choice seems to result in a somewhat fizzle.
Recently I have tried determining exactly why, because I want to improve on this. I purchased a fleshlight for better testing.
What I have come to realize is that during climax, the head goes very sensitive which results in some mild pain/discomfort if I keep thrusting. Rather if I keep stationary, I don't have any discomfort but the lack of stimulation at climax leaves me with a fizzle.
This seems to occur regardless of fleshlight or vagina.
During masturbation with my hand however I only ever grip the shaft and don't touch the head which is why I don't have the problem, since my sensitive head isn't being touched at climax but I am still stimulating the shaft.
So that is my problem. I am trying to move to masturbating only with fleshlight to try and train my body but after a couple months I don't feel like I am improving at all – I still don't know if I should stop at climax to avoid the sensitive head discomfort or try to keep thrusting. I sometimes try thrusting lightly between spurts or just very gently moving but I am yet to find anything that really works.
Has anyone else experienced this conundrum or any advice on which way I should move forward with to improve?