Me (21M) and my girlfriend (23F) (both virgin) had a full day to ourselves. We’ve been dating for a year, and we planned that this would be our first time having sex.
We started with some foreplay around noon, and eventually we both agreed to take it further. I wore a condom. It was my first time actually using one, although I had practiced putting one on before. Still, I’m not fully confident I did it perfectly.
She was on top at first, and I was trying to guide myself in, but I couldn’t find the opening. She tried to help too, but we still couldn’t get it in. Then I got on top and tried again, but we had the same issue. After trying for a while, we both agreed to stop and try again later at night.
When I went to take the condom off, I noticed that it had split in half. I honestly have no idea how I didn’t notice it earlier. Now I’m really worried that she might get pregnant, even though there was no penetration at all. At most, the tip may have been at the opening but never went inside. Should I be worried?
Later that night, after some foreplay, we tried again. I ended up wasting two condoms because I put them on the wrong way. Once I finally put one on correctly, we continued. This time we were able to find the opening, but as I tried to go in, she softly screamed and said it was very painful. I stopped immediately.
She said maybe it was the wrong hole, but it wasn’t. We tried again, and the same thing happened. Each time I tried to enter, it hurt her a lot. We made a few attempts, but it was painful every single time, so we eventually stopped.
After that, I fingered her and she came, and then we went to sleep.
I’m really anxious about two things:
The pregnancy risk from earlier in the day
Why penetration was so painful for her — is this normal?
(story is true it might sound like ai cause i used gpt to correct the grammar🫠)