I’m 31 years old. On all my previous dates, things moved very fast. The girls were interested from day one, very open, and there was no confusion.
Recently, I met a girl I really like — her face, body, calm personality, everything. On the first date, I asked if she wanted a second date and she said yes. I also asked if she liked me, and she said yes.
On the second date, I asked where this was going — whether we were becoming a couple or not. She said she wants to go very slowly. She wants more dates and said that even if it takes months, she can’t force feelings; they need to happen naturally without planning. She also told me directly: “Please don’t get attached to me.”
She texts very little — maybe 3 messages per day. Sometimes she replies after 3 hours. She has an internship, and we both have Master’s degrees. She is 23.
I’m feeling confused.
We also had a phone call where I asked, in general, what her “ideal man” looks like. She said:
Not white skin, not black skin
Muscular, but not fat and not skinny
Tall, with a beard, and with hair
She likes nice cars and even asked if I plan to change mine
She lives with her parents in a normal area, but said she hates it and wants to live in one of the most expensive areas in the city after being with a man
The problem is:
I’m losing some hair
I don’t have muscles
Right now, I don’t have a lot of money. I have a normal job as a manager. I do have plans, goals, and dreams to become more successful financially, but I’m not there yet.