I have a friend, G, who was in a 6-year relationship. His girlfriend cheated on him. He was loyal as fuck, extremely attached to her, and honestly he had everything a girl looks for in a guy—still, she cheated on him.
So the thing is, right now I’m in a talking stage with a girl. She’s a total green flag. She doesn’t talk to other guys, she’s rude to most people, never replies late, double texts, does all that. She genuinely cares about me. She said that before getting into a relationship, we’ll wait 3–4 months and get to know each other properly.
On her birthday, I gifted her a bracelet and a plushie, and she wears that bracelet all the time 💗💗. She’s really pretty, by the way. She had told me earlier that she doesn’t like physical touch, but with me she said she likes it when it’s me.
Yesterday, we were traveling on the same train from Kanpur to Delhi. The train got delayed, so we spent around 6 hours together, just roaming around. She shared things from her heart—her depressing past. She held my forearm the way people do, crossing her arm with mine. After that, she held my hand properly and looked at me with love.
Our seats in the train were different, but she made the effort to get them exchanged so we could sit together. While sitting together, I fed her ice cream with my hand, and then I ate from the same spoon. She got sleepy, so she rested her head on my shoulder and fell asleep. Several times she came so close to my face that I can’t even explain it.
While sleeping, she came really close and said in a very sleepy voice, “I’m feeling cold, (my name).” She was so close that I could smell her breath. After that, she kind of slept in my lap. When she woke up, she held my hand, sat close, held it tightly, and looked at me with a lot of love. I fell asleep, and she kept watching me while I slept.
When it was time to leave, she held my hand and said “Take care”, and then “bye bye.”
So first, give me a detailed review of this whole story.
And then tell me—G warned me not to get attached because I’ll get hurt.
But now what do I do, because I’m falling in love because of her
TL:DR: My friend was in a 6-year loyal relationship and still got cheated on, so he warned me not to get emotionally attached.
Right now, I’m in a talking stage with a girl who feels like a total green flag. She cares about me, doesn’t talk to other guys, puts in effort, and wants to take 3–4 months to get to know each other before a relationship. She wears the bracelet I gifted her every day.
During a long train journey together, we spent hours talking, she opened up about her past, held my hand, rested her head on my shoulder, slept close to me, and showed a lot of affection and emotional comfort. Her actions made me feel genuinely loved and special.
Now I’m confused because I’m developing real feelings due to how she treats me, but I’m scared of getting too attached and hurt like my friend did.