Hi everyone, I’m looking for outside perspectives because I feel sad and disappointed more than angry.
My ex and I are not together, but we’ve stayed in contact and kept things friendly. For months, there has been a specific girl who consistently watches my Instagram stories. Because of that, I asked him directly more than once if he was seeing someone or if there was anything going on with her. He always denied it.
Based on that trust, I invited my ex to spend Christmas with my family.
During the night, I saw messages from her on his phone, and it became clear that they are actually together. I asked him directly in that moment, and he admitted it.
He did apologize, but only after we went over it several times. His reasoning was that he didn’t feel the need to tell me because “it wasn’t important”. What hurts is that I had asked him directly, multiple times.
What hurt me is not that he’s with someone else. It’s realizing that he lied to me for months, minimized it afterward, and still accepted an invitation to such an intimate space like a family Christmas dinner.
After he left, he texted me: “I got home safe, thanks for the hospitality.”
He didn’t acknowledge anything else. No follow-up, no accountability beyond that.
I didn’t reply. I feel sad and let down, and I don’t know if it’s worth expressing how I feel or if it’s better to just let it go and stay silent.
What would you do in my place?
Thanks for reading.