As the title says, my husband has ADHD (unmedicated). Whenever we have sex he has difficulties staying hard because he looses his focus or gets distracted with other thoughts. This leads to hom having to 'start up' multiple times, which leads to me cooling off more as time goes by… He always makes sure he takes care of me, makes me have an orgasm almost every time! I love that part… but after some time i started to feel inadequate… because we usually stop before he can cum, he says its not about that for him. He enjoys the act itself more than having an orgasm… but i cant help but to feel bad, because he takes such good care of me, and somehow i cant do the same for him.
I've had other sexual relationships before him, and men not being hard while with me has never been an issue. I kind of never had to worry about that or do anything special to turn men on, so now i'm at a loss as to how to turn my husband on enough to keep his focus…
I've tried giving him a handjob (but apparently im not very good at it), and a blowjob (but i dont really enjoy that). He's turned on by kissing, which we do alot… but i dont know what else could turn him on… like i dont know what to do with the rest of his body in terms of turning him on. As stupid as it may sound i always just thought about entertaining a man's penis…
Do you have any suggestions for me how else i can get him to have an orgasm?