I ('26 NB') have been with my wife('23F') for 4 years. We got married almost two years ago. I found out today she has been sexting her ex from high school for the last week or so. They haven't been together physically, just messaging.
I know it is wrong for her to do this but I love her. I haven't been a very sexual person due to past trauma and she has talked to me about it. She needs sex to feel wanted and loved in a relationship and I am bad with that. We only have sex like once or twice a month.
Is the relationship saveable? I don't want to resent her and control her. I used to have control issues because of insecurities I had but I went to therapy to handle them. I know I desperately need therapy to handle my lack of intimacy with her.
I love her so much and she loves me. We had a perfect relationship up until now. I don't want to lose it all.
Has anyone been with someone who cheated and was able to move past it with couples therapy? I don't want to hear a bunch of 'they will never stop cheating, leave them' comments. Just real advice please.