My boyfriend (28) and I (f,28) got caught having sex in his car in public by two men who were patrolling the area (they aren’t police officers but appointed by the community for this duty).
We handled the situation (paid a fine) and they let us go. I am deep disturbed by this whole situation because within our community, sex for unmarried couples is a very controversial issue and very much look down upon.
While both very liberal in our mindsets, there is a part of me that feels a lot of shame/disgust toward myself and guilt towards my partner for allowing this situation to happen. He has expressed his own feelings of regret and had reassured me nothing will happen to us (wrt to those two men).
We both agreed that we were stupid to put ourselves in such a situation and everything is great between us. However, the problem is me. I can’t get over this and I am constantly hounded by thoughts of this and a lot of regret.
I didn’t know what sub to put this on so here it is. I need a little bit of help getting past this experience. Any advice?