So this happened recently. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years now and we broke up for a year and a half, from 2024 to mid 2025. We’ve recently got back together and everything’s been going so incredibly well. I’ve recently lost my grandfather and attended his funeral, I expressed to by boyfriend that it was important he come to support me, especially since he knew him. Coming to the date, he took a shift from work and felt like he couldn’t tell his boss he couldn’t do it, instead he said he’d try to finish as fast as he could so he can attend and at that point I told him it doesn’t matter, I was disappointed because I told him this ahead of time. I went to see him afterwards and he was there for me as a person is. The next day he drove me to work and was going to use my car to do laundry, we drove in silence because I’m grieving and I’m just sad. When I left, I get a call from him while I’m at work and he’s screaming at the top of his lungs. He found a little sex diary I had, where I made 4 entries when we were separated. I slept with someone during that year and a half break up, and he read about it. He said he was looking for a charger and it “fell open”. He believes that I cheated on him because one date if the entry was during a work party of his which I wasn’t allowed to come. If anyone has ever written in a diary, you write the date you’re journaling, not that date that whatever you’re journaling happened on. I tried to explain this to him and he was not trying to listen. I understand his anger and frustrations so I let him be angry. He picked me up from work and drove himself back in silence, before leaving, I told him “I’ll give you your space and time, and when you’re ready to talk, I’m here”, he then said “yeah take that time to fill up that book” and walked away. I’ve texted him everyday good morning and goodnight, letting him know I love him. It’s been almost a week that we haven’t spoken, and today is my birthday. He hasn’t reached out or said anything to me and every day I feel a little more heart broken waiting for a response from him. I don’t know what to do at this moment, and I’ve kind of lost all my steam the longer this goes on. What should I do?
TL;DR: My boyfriend of 8 years found a sex diary from when we were separated, thinks I cheated and now won’t speak to me.