Update, I did confront him and it did not go well. He claimed he used it as a personal journal to bounce ideas off and I violated his trust by reading it. While I can understand that, a journal doesn't talk back. You have to teach AI, so for it to come back with negative results about me, means he at some point taught it this. Either intentionally or just through venting, he taught the AI this. Honestly I'm not sure how we can work past this. We discuss some issues we've been having, I won't go into specifics, but he fully admits he hasn't been a good partner the past 18 months while I was pregnant and tending to our baby. We are both at fault for the issues we are dealing with currently, I'm not assigning blame.
I compare his use of AI to chatting with a friend who already doesn't like me, about problems within our relationship. Which just feels gross.
I say long term because we have been together for 18 years, and remain unmarried. While the reason for this isn't really pertinent to the post, it does set a tone.
We've been having problems for years now, and things reached a peak earlier this year when our surprise baby was born. Its the same issues we go round and round about. This particular time its been a good while that we just haven't been speaking beyond the kids and holidays logistics.
This evening I found his AI chat feed regarding us. It was quite unflattering to me. He'd input a few sentences about how he felt about me, and get 5-10 paragraphs describing what kind of manipulation that was and my potential motives for using these manipulation tactics. And because this AI has been programmed and used by him daily for months now, it also went on about how he needs to remain strong and keep pushing forward with his long term plans and ideas. There were at least a dozen prompts, so it was a lot of information and this is really just the jist of it all.
To say I feel an incredible amount of betrayal is an understatement. The last few prompts were basically an outline for if he wanted to leave me, what division of assets and custody would look like.
Here's one, "She's been so happy with the kids while ignoring me". AI says thats because I'm trying to ice him out and manipulate him to break first. I'm using the kids against him because I can't get to him directly any more. *How about i just want to be happy for my kids when I feel like shit inside.
Another, "She's been so mean to our daughter, making her do ordinary chores, just being really mean about it." AI says I'm taking my aggression with him out on her. Because if I can't get a reaction out of him, I need to get it out of someone. *No, I'm just tired of her preteen attitude and constant complaining about helping me.
I understand that AI can be a powerful tool and it's used by almost everyone. I still feel betrayed and sick from this, this can't be healthy. I just don't even know how to confront this problem.
Tl:dr, my bf has painted me negatively with his AI assistant