What’s something you hate during sex but pretend to like?
December 24, 2025
I’m asking out of curiosity and for discussion. As people gain experience they realize what they truly enjoy or dislike. What’s something you don’t like during sex but still pretend to?
45 comments
Butt Stuff. Like… I’ll do it if she really likes it, but I just… it’s not for me.
Nothing. People pretend to like stuff they don’t like during sex? Sounds horrible.
Dirty talk – from me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ll do some nasty shit. I just feel like I sound ridiculous when I say it out loud.
the emotional vulnerability
I’m pretty much like that with sex in general
Feet play
Hate to say it, but blowjobs. I’ve had a few good ones over the years, but most women are so much worse at it than they realize.
When the corpse spasms
My wife putting things up my ass, at first it was just a quicker way to cum but now she’s obsessed with it, there’s nothing she won’t try to put up there
I don’t like Frank’s red hot sauce in my penis but I don’t know how to bring the subject up
I’m really not into BDSM, but it drives wife and literally every other girl I’ve been crazy, so I put up with it. Also, it turns me on that they’re turned on, so, ya know, I’ll do it, but what the fuck ladies?
Squirting. I’m big and that pushes my girlfriend’s internal buttons. She loves how intense the G Spot/A spot orgasms are,, and I love that I can make her feel that way, but the clean up is a bitch and I hate sleeping on wet sheets. I’ll tell her it is hot as hell though.
Biting, scratching, and music.
Hiding in the closet watching.
I don’t like doggy or anything from behind. I don’t want to stare at the ass. I like looking women in the eyes.
Handjobs from a woman. Appreciate the thought, honestly, but I’ve done this a thousand times and it’s like you’re serving microwave mac and cheese to a master chef here.
Just the act of having sex. I’m always way too nervous and it makes it really awkward. I’ve never really had fun doing it and it kinda feels like a chore. It always feels like I could have spent that time doing anything else.
when a man tries to kiss my legs, feet and toes, as if I’m a chicken drum stick 🙁. I laugh so hard because I start to think about the KFC drum sticks with fries and gravy on the side lol haha.
I kinda hate lingerie, just gets in the way. It isn’t particularly more attractive than being naked. Also costs a shit ton
“OH NOES GUYS, MY STEAK IS TOO JUICY, MY LOBSTER IS TOO BUTTERY!”
But to answer your question OP, doing like 90% of the work.
Nothing. There’s full 2-way communication with my partner about likes and dislikes. Authenticity is a key value, so there is no pretending about anything.
I don’t pretend to like things anymore
“Hate” is too strong a word, but my wife does not know how to give a blowjob. I humor her when she wants to, but I never finish that way.
In general we have a good sex life, and we’re forthright with each other when something isn’t working. I just can’t bring myself to tell her that she’s never been any good at this one thing. She doesn’t do it frequently, so it’s not a big deal.
When women bite your nipples. JC, that hurts. I don’t do it to them now after I found out how much it hurts
When you have the perfect position and it works and you are over the moon with it and you are like just don’t change anything and she says sorry have to move getting cramp or getting tired and you were like 5 seconds away.
It’s like so much easier if ehe do you and then me or me and then you. I do care which but we know we are u likely to arrive together without a lot more planning. So if you are constraining us to 30 mins because your tired let’s crsck on!
Yer mum
After the last few years with my ex, I hate everything.
It wasn’t always bad, but damn I can’t remember the last time any of it was enjoyable.
It was a task or chore to do to keep her happy. She used sex as a weapon and it absolutely ruined it for me.
Why would I pretend anything with anyone ,? Why do you ?
Why would I disrespect myself and pretend to like something I hate ?
Why did you do that ?
Being deepthroated. It’s a little impressive if they can throat the whole thing but it doesn’t add to the pleasure of the blowjob and I still gotta pretend to think it’s hot that she almost threw up
talking about non sex related things. practically anything else..
Lot of humblebragging going on in here
Reverse cowgirl, I always feel like it’s bending me the wrong way, and is 5 degrees from
Snapping my cock off
Out of all the blowjobs I’ve received in my life, there has only been one that felt better than me just jacking myself off. I’ve always attributed it to the fact that I’m circumcised (since there’s sadly a lot of nerve endings that are cut off when you remove the foreskin), but then I got a blowjob from this Muslim girl who never had sex and only ever did third base stuff with past boyfriends. Jesus Christ…..so that’s what it’s supposed to feel like🤦♂️ all that pent up sexual frustration must’ve given her mouth some sort of magical power. I don’t expect to ever receive a blowjob like that again.
39m. I hate using condoms. I can’t feel anything. And the worst part is i’ve always worn one during PiV sex 100% of the time. I’m way too responsible.
Now i’m on an 11 year dry spell and probably won’t ever get to experience raw sex. I wish i was irresponsible and reckless like everyone else. I wish i was normal.
I really suck at dirty talking.
Occasionally it feels low effort and smooth, but i constantly get thrown out of the moment when i try to think of something “domish” to say, and half the time after the words leave my mouth i die a little inside because i feel so foolish
being expected to know what’s going on in my wife’s head when she isn’t using her words. USE YOUR WORDS. really hate it if she gets mad at me because i “should know”. this was a bigger issue in the early years of our marriage, less of a thing now but still pops up once in a while.
Part of it is my wife is neurospicey and the part of her brain she uses to speak needs to shut almost completely off so the part of her brain that she uses to come is functional. She really hates having to talk when she’s close. So i had to *cracks knuckles* perfect my craft!
Anal
Used to date a girl who would always lick / bite / breathe heavy into my ear. Just gross.
At this point in life, I don’t pretend to like something. I’ve been with my wife for over 20 years. She knows what I like and I know what she likes. We stick to that and it works.
When a woman gets on top and starts going crazy I’m talking like bending my dong in ways it shouldn’t. Not a fan. I find myself gripping the bed and or her holding on for dear life trying to anticipate her movements so my dick doesn’t fuckin break in half. Not fun for me.
My ex was into consensual non consent. I wasn’t a fan, but I’d do it sometimes.
When she’s on top and she starts doing that grinding thing instead of bouncing. That does absolutely nothing for me.
receiving oral. always hated it
Doggy. Women seem to love it but it’s just too impersonal for me. I mean I’ll gladly indulge her. But I’d much rather pull that ass to the edge of the bed missionary and stand to fuck while I watch her eyes roll. Trynna see yall pretty o-faces.
Dirty talk in German only sort of works for me
All the cameras and the crew members trying to do close ups….
45 comments
Butt Stuff. Like… I’ll do it if she really likes it, but I just… it’s not for me.
Nothing. People pretend to like stuff they don’t like during sex? Sounds horrible.
Dirty talk – from me.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ll do some nasty shit. I just feel like I sound ridiculous when I say it out loud.
the emotional vulnerability
I’m pretty much like that with sex in general
Feet play
Hate to say it, but blowjobs. I’ve had a few good ones over the years, but most women are so much worse at it than they realize.
When the corpse spasms
My wife putting things up my ass, at first it was just a quicker way to cum but now she’s obsessed with it, there’s nothing she won’t try to put up there
I don’t like Frank’s red hot sauce in my penis but I don’t know how to bring the subject up
I’m really not into BDSM, but it drives wife and literally every other girl I’ve been crazy, so I put up with it. Also, it turns me on that they’re turned on, so, ya know, I’ll do it, but what the fuck ladies?
Squirting. I’m big and that pushes my girlfriend’s internal buttons. She loves how intense the G Spot/A spot orgasms are,, and I love that I can make her feel that way, but the clean up is a bitch and I hate sleeping on wet sheets. I’ll tell her it is hot as hell though.
Biting, scratching, and music.
Hiding in the closet watching.
I don’t like doggy or anything from behind. I don’t want to stare at the ass. I like looking women in the eyes.
Handjobs from a woman. Appreciate the thought, honestly, but I’ve done this a thousand times and it’s like you’re serving microwave mac and cheese to a master chef here.
Just the act of having sex. I’m always way too nervous and it makes it really awkward. I’ve never really had fun doing it and it kinda feels like a chore. It always feels like I could have spent that time doing anything else.
when a man tries to kiss my legs, feet and toes, as if I’m a chicken drum stick 🙁. I laugh so hard because I start to think about the KFC drum sticks with fries and gravy on the side lol haha.
I kinda hate lingerie, just gets in the way. It isn’t particularly more attractive than being naked. Also costs a shit ton
This post’s comments section is the embodiment of
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“OH NOES GUYS, MY STEAK IS TOO JUICY, MY LOBSTER IS TOO BUTTERY!”
But to answer your question OP, doing like 90% of the work.
Nothing. There’s full 2-way communication with my partner about likes and dislikes. Authenticity is a key value, so there is no pretending about anything.
I don’t pretend to like things anymore
“Hate” is too strong a word, but my wife does not know how to give a blowjob. I humor her when she wants to, but I never finish that way.
In general we have a good sex life, and we’re forthright with each other when something isn’t working. I just can’t bring myself to tell her that she’s never been any good at this one thing. She doesn’t do it frequently, so it’s not a big deal.
When women bite your nipples. JC, that hurts. I don’t do it to them now after I found out how much it hurts
When you have the perfect position and it works and you are over the moon with it and you are like just don’t change anything and she says sorry have to move getting cramp or getting tired and you were like 5 seconds away.
It’s like so much easier if ehe do you and then me or me and then you. I do care which but we know we are u likely to arrive together without a lot more planning. So if you are constraining us to 30 mins because your tired let’s crsck on!
Yer mum
After the last few years with my ex, I hate everything.
It wasn’t always bad, but damn I can’t remember the last time any of it was enjoyable.
It was a task or chore to do to keep her happy. She used sex as a weapon and it absolutely ruined it for me.
Why would I pretend anything with anyone ,? Why do you ?
Why would I disrespect myself and pretend to like something I hate ?
Why did you do that ?
Being deepthroated. It’s a little impressive if they can throat the whole thing but it doesn’t add to the pleasure of the blowjob and I still gotta pretend to think it’s hot that she almost threw up
talking about non sex related things. practically anything else..
Lot of humblebragging going on in here
Reverse cowgirl, I always feel like it’s bending me the wrong way, and is 5 degrees from
Snapping my cock off
Out of all the blowjobs I’ve received in my life, there has only been one that felt better than me just jacking myself off. I’ve always attributed it to the fact that I’m circumcised (since there’s sadly a lot of nerve endings that are cut off when you remove the foreskin), but then I got a blowjob from this Muslim girl who never had sex and only ever did third base stuff with past boyfriends. Jesus Christ…..so that’s what it’s supposed to feel like🤦♂️ all that pent up sexual frustration must’ve given her mouth some sort of magical power. I don’t expect to ever receive a blowjob like that again.
39m. I hate using condoms. I can’t feel anything. And the worst part is i’ve always worn one during PiV sex 100% of the time. I’m way too responsible.
Now i’m on an 11 year dry spell and probably won’t ever get to experience raw sex. I wish i was irresponsible and reckless like everyone else. I wish i was normal.
I really suck at dirty talking.
Occasionally it feels low effort and smooth, but i constantly get thrown out of the moment when i try to think of something “domish” to say, and half the time after the words leave my mouth i die a little inside because i feel so foolish
being expected to know what’s going on in my wife’s head when she isn’t using her words. USE YOUR WORDS. really hate it if she gets mad at me because i “should know”. this was a bigger issue in the early years of our marriage, less of a thing now but still pops up once in a while.
Part of it is my wife is neurospicey and the part of her brain she uses to speak needs to shut almost completely off so the part of her brain that she uses to come is functional. She really hates having to talk when she’s close. So i had to *cracks knuckles* perfect my craft!
Anal
Used to date a girl who would always lick / bite / breathe heavy into my ear. Just gross.
At this point in life, I don’t pretend to like something. I’ve been with my wife for over 20 years. She knows what I like and I know what she likes. We stick to that and it works.
When a woman gets on top and starts going crazy I’m talking like bending my dong in ways it shouldn’t. Not a fan. I find myself gripping the bed and or her holding on for dear life trying to anticipate her movements so my dick doesn’t fuckin break in half. Not fun for me.
My ex was into consensual non consent. I wasn’t a fan, but I’d do it sometimes.
When she’s on top and she starts doing that grinding thing instead of bouncing. That does absolutely nothing for me.
receiving oral. always hated it
Doggy. Women seem to love it but it’s just too impersonal for me. I mean I’ll gladly indulge her. But I’d much rather pull that ass to the edge of the bed missionary and stand to fuck while I watch her eyes roll. Trynna see yall pretty o-faces.
Dirty talk in German only sort of works for me
All the cameras and the crew members trying to do close ups….