So there was this girl whom I became friends with 4 years ago. She was sweet and respectful towards me all this time and we were great friends.
So what happened is that she was in an abusive relationship and used to have fights every other day. She used to cry and vent out to me and this kept going for 3 years until she finally decided to end it last year.
Now the thing is that in these 3 years I never expected anything from her and also because she is depressive and has childhood traumas so this kept her in a bad space mentally.
Last year she made another friend (female) and they got really close. She just replaced me and did alot for her. It made me feel bad because she didn’t do it for me even after always telling me how important im to her but she is putting all the efforts for her friend.
Whenever i confronted, she said im just overthinking and im wrong and that there is nothing like this. Also the fact that whenever I complain that she didn’t wish me for my birthday or try to make it anything special or doesn’t appreciate me enough, she just started getting defensive and said i keep on complaining and that she was having some problems, she is depressed n all that.
I felt terrible because my efforts never got reciprocated and when i wanted them to be, she just used her traumas and depression to cover up. But she always puts efforts for her friend.
I did alot for her and made her feel loved, respected and what not but when i confronted this is what i got in return. It kept me anxious and letting go gave me peace. I no longer have to wait for her texts or that she wants to go out or have fun with me. She is already doing all that with her friend. I miss her but for my own sanity i had to do this.
After we had an argument, nobody texted and its been a month. She thinks she did nothing wrong and me being hurt is not justified.
I no longer feel like talking to her, I just accepted my fate and let it go.