Okay I seriously need to know. I know this is going to sound weird but hear me out. ( I am 24F and in university, I started later).
Anyways can anyone tell me why it feels like there has been a shift in friendships. Or maybe I am only experiencing or noticing this:
I would say I am someone who likes being around people and I am always out. I get invited to things and groups simply because I put myself in situations BUT I realized one common thing.
I find myself in this weird loop (that has been going on since 2022) that EVERYONE I meet since just becomes friendly acquaintances more than true friends.
What I’ve also noticed is everyone claiming they have “friends”, when they are just really friendly acquaintances. Since I am out and about, I often join friend groups + their chats, and what I have noticed is the weird energy, I don’t know how to describe. Let me give you an example. I was in this friend group with 5-6 ppl. 2 girls in there (I am a woman too), were supposedly long term ”friends“ and yet one of fhem told me multiple times, how the other one annoyed her. They clearly grew out of their friendship but tell everyone they are friends and keep in touch. The same thing goes for the 2 guys in the group. I knew stuff that, that one of the other didn’t know (couldn’t tell) which I found weird asf. Isn’t this your friend (who you should trust more than me?)
and that is not the only thing: there is this weird dynamic were nobody really wants a closer friend. I feel like but MOST ppl I engage with are interested in bigger group hangouts to events, parties etc. I noticed if one person ask for hanging and not everyone is in on it, nobody wants to join. Yet if multiple ppl are interested, suddenly everyone wanna go.
i know this is weird but have we all, myself included, forgotten the art of being real friends? Does anyone have genuine close friendships Or are they a myth?