Hi all, my (25M) girlfriend (25F) of 4 years just confessed to me that very rarely that she feels good, but almost always have pain and burning sensation inside during PIV despite the fact that it's our ritual to foreplay till she orgasm first, so plenty of natural lube to start with.
We were both inexperienced when we start, we keep it external with oral, hands and grinding for the first 6 months into the replationship as she was not ready in fear of pain, and we found out that it's easy for her to reach the O with clit-focused plays. But then we actually did PIV, it was a total struggle with just the entry let alone anything else. It hurts so bad for her that half of the time we call it quit and the other half she endure the pain just for my sake, which mostly end up in her crying. This is the occurance from the very first time until to date.
Here's what we've tried, nothing helps so far:
– Changing different type/ material of condoms
– All kind of lubes with different content tried
– She went to doctors, none said she has any kind of problem. (She had a health check couple days ago, speculum involed, she said that didn't hurt)
We have never tried it raw, we're both living in a pretty conservative Asian country with heavy prejudice on pregnancy before marriage so she's extremely against no-condoms.
I did a little research on my own and I think the main culprits now seems to be pelvic floor muscle tension, psychological pain loop or something. I really hope someone with the same experienced (so sorry) can help us overcome this.